Reading over my posts from the last couple years, has made me giggle. My life is completely different! I have grown a lot since my last post! I am currently waiting to begin the RN nursing program next fall, and Jeremiah proposed last May :) he liked it so he put a ring on it ;) We will be married May 21st of this year! My life is crazy busy, and there are days I want to rip my hair out, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I don't have much to say right now, but I promise to update a lot more often than I have been!
daley inspiration 2/20/11:
always keep your heart and mind open. never get too comfortable with what you have to not want to achieve more for yourself and the ones you love. yet never take for granted the things you have already accomplished, and don't forget to pat yourself on the back for getting them.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Compassion is Key
so i appologize that its been a really long time since i have written, but to be honest i've been too damn busy! but something happened to me today that i thought EVERYONE should read.
the topic of my blog today is ignorance. and let's start by explaining my situation:
i have psoriasis (pronounced sore i a sis). it is an immuno deficiency skin disease which leaves your skin looking red and scaly. it looks very similar to excema, but redder. psoriasis is easily broken down to this: normal skin cells last 30 days. you shed them on your clothes or when you shower, but very rarely can you tell that you are losing skin cells. people with psoriasis have skin cells that last at the very longest 3 days, so the skin looks scaly and can peel off. i was not born with psoriasis, i got it when i was 21 and i have a rare form of psoriasis that is strep induced (i had to much of the strep virus in my blood.) psoriasis is not curable, and can be very painful and can make many people feel very self conscious.
i am a very strong person. yes, this disease has made me feel bad about myself. yes there have been times when i've been deeply depressed about it. but i have learned to live with it and appreciate that so many worse things could happen to me. i am ultimately a positive person and have found sanction in my pretty face ; ) (joking!!!) but honestly i've realized that it is a very small part of who i am, but it IS STILL A PART OF ME. i have been asked on numerous occasions what it is, and let me start by saying this...i do not get offended when someone curiously asks "aw what happened?" or "aw man is that poison ivy?" those questions are completely fine and do not even make me cringe. when someone asks "what's wrong with your hands?" it makes me want to punch them in the face. there is nothing WRONG with me. i have a disease. i have not until today encountered true IGNORANCE to the fact. so let me continue with what happened to me today.
i got to work early and started to set up the salad dressings. i thought they looked wrong so i asked my manager if i was missing something. he looked down at my hands with a disgusted look on his face and said, "ew what's wrong with your hands." very curtly i answered, "i have psoriasis." to which he gave me another disgusted look and an "ew." and i walked away. later he was talking to a table of my coworkers, and said something about my "freakish hands." to which (god bless them ) the girls sternly told him that was wrong. later, i was talking to another coworker and he told me to just get a woman another cup of coffee and i hear my manager yell "and some new hands." i turned around and said "what did he just say?" and my coworker shooed me away knowing i'd get upset and thats when i started to cry. i have not felt BULLIED like that since i was 10 years old. and by someone who was supposed to be my SUPERIOR. needless to say, i was too angry to even confront my manager and left without saying a word.
people, all i ask of you to take away from this is consideration, and knowledge. words can be a dagger straight to someone's heart, and i know had i not been a stronger person, they could have really done damage. while i am deeply offended, hurt, and EXTREMELY angry, i know that i can blame it on his ignorance. the cruelty with which that situation was fueled was mindboggling. i'm not sure yet what i'm going to do about this situation, but i wanted to spread the word to people so that everyone would understand what an effect your words can have on people. never speak on a subject you know nothing about.
daley inspiration for 2/12/09:
compassion can be the most rewarding act. curiosity is not evil, but delieverance is crucial. always think about the way you say something so that it can not be misconstrued. just be kind. it takes more energy to hate someone than to love them. never criticize what you don't comprehend.
the topic of my blog today is ignorance. and let's start by explaining my situation:
i have psoriasis (pronounced sore i a sis). it is an immuno deficiency skin disease which leaves your skin looking red and scaly. it looks very similar to excema, but redder. psoriasis is easily broken down to this: normal skin cells last 30 days. you shed them on your clothes or when you shower, but very rarely can you tell that you are losing skin cells. people with psoriasis have skin cells that last at the very longest 3 days, so the skin looks scaly and can peel off. i was not born with psoriasis, i got it when i was 21 and i have a rare form of psoriasis that is strep induced (i had to much of the strep virus in my blood.) psoriasis is not curable, and can be very painful and can make many people feel very self conscious.
i am a very strong person. yes, this disease has made me feel bad about myself. yes there have been times when i've been deeply depressed about it. but i have learned to live with it and appreciate that so many worse things could happen to me. i am ultimately a positive person and have found sanction in my pretty face ; ) (joking!!!) but honestly i've realized that it is a very small part of who i am, but it IS STILL A PART OF ME. i have been asked on numerous occasions what it is, and let me start by saying this...i do not get offended when someone curiously asks "aw what happened?" or "aw man is that poison ivy?" those questions are completely fine and do not even make me cringe. when someone asks "what's wrong with your hands?" it makes me want to punch them in the face. there is nothing WRONG with me. i have a disease. i have not until today encountered true IGNORANCE to the fact. so let me continue with what happened to me today.
i got to work early and started to set up the salad dressings. i thought they looked wrong so i asked my manager if i was missing something. he looked down at my hands with a disgusted look on his face and said, "ew what's wrong with your hands." very curtly i answered, "i have psoriasis." to which he gave me another disgusted look and an "ew." and i walked away. later he was talking to a table of my coworkers, and said something about my "freakish hands." to which (god bless them ) the girls sternly told him that was wrong. later, i was talking to another coworker and he told me to just get a woman another cup of coffee and i hear my manager yell "and some new hands." i turned around and said "what did he just say?" and my coworker shooed me away knowing i'd get upset and thats when i started to cry. i have not felt BULLIED like that since i was 10 years old. and by someone who was supposed to be my SUPERIOR. needless to say, i was too angry to even confront my manager and left without saying a word.
people, all i ask of you to take away from this is consideration, and knowledge. words can be a dagger straight to someone's heart, and i know had i not been a stronger person, they could have really done damage. while i am deeply offended, hurt, and EXTREMELY angry, i know that i can blame it on his ignorance. the cruelty with which that situation was fueled was mindboggling. i'm not sure yet what i'm going to do about this situation, but i wanted to spread the word to people so that everyone would understand what an effect your words can have on people. never speak on a subject you know nothing about.
daley inspiration for 2/12/09:
compassion can be the most rewarding act. curiosity is not evil, but delieverance is crucial. always think about the way you say something so that it can not be misconstrued. just be kind. it takes more energy to hate someone than to love them. never criticize what you don't comprehend.
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
2 double oh 9
so its 2009, and i feel as though the world needs an update on my life. january 1st is jeremiahs birthday, so of course new years eve was a good time! i had a few family and close friends over to the apartment, my love made some seafood and we had a really nice bottle of champagne. hung out and watched stepbrothers and watched the ball drop. all in all it was a great new years.
this weekend, was great! boyfriend and i went to new jersey to visit my fam. hung out with mom and dad sisters and brother. opened all our christmas gifts and my sister jackie did my hair. we came home late saturday night. sunday we headed to dc for the wizards cavs game! it was a really good time...i've never been to a basketball game, and well boyfriend is obsessed haha so he showed me how fun it could be. we had dinner in the city after the game and then headed home and rented some movies. perfect weekend :)
but i did a lot of thinking this weekend too. i got nervous about money and upset about where my life is. i want so much more for myself, and it kills me to see not only me, but a lot of the people i work with, doing something that all of us are way over qualified for. and i wondered how i can turn it back around, and get back on the right track. and i'm tired of working so hard just to squeeze by...and on the way home from jersey saturday night, i voiced a lot of this to jeremiah. and leave it to my knight in shining armor to turn me around. he said that sometimes we take for granted what we have in the present worrying about what we want in the future. sometimes we have to stop and appreciate all the great things we do have and let the rest fall into place. (see why i love him ; ) )
so, because of what he said, my wheels again started turning, and i realized this:
i'm so grateful for the amazing man in my life.
i'm so grateful for all the people i know, family, friends, coworkers...everyone in my life has touched me in some way. i have learned so much from the people i have met along the way. whether it was a moment someone smiled at me, an hour we shared in a waiting room, a week at a camp, a month in europe, or years of working side by side, you can't take for granted the people and conversations in life.
i'm so grateful for the amazing home jeremiah and i have made together.
i'm so grateful for the life i had in jersey, and the life i've made in maryland.
i'm so grateful for the 23 years of learning i've been blessed to have.
i'm so grateful for the family i have been blessed with.
i'm so grateful for the friends who have stuck by me for years, and the ones who have only been in my life for a short time. i feel lucky to have so many great people in my life.
i'm so grateful that i have plenty of time to figure out the rest :)
daley inspiration for 1/6/09:
don't ever forget to take a step back and look at all the good in your life. there were always be hardships and struggles, but you are more blessed if there are always good people in your life. make sure you thank those who support you, and let go those who hold you back. remember that negative people can be poison, and infect you with the venom of doubt. NEVER DOUBT YOURSELF. keep you as the first priority in your life, but never be selfish. and don't forget most importantly....breathe. :)
this weekend, was great! boyfriend and i went to new jersey to visit my fam. hung out with mom and dad sisters and brother. opened all our christmas gifts and my sister jackie did my hair. we came home late saturday night. sunday we headed to dc for the wizards cavs game! it was a really good time...i've never been to a basketball game, and well boyfriend is obsessed haha so he showed me how fun it could be. we had dinner in the city after the game and then headed home and rented some movies. perfect weekend :)
but i did a lot of thinking this weekend too. i got nervous about money and upset about where my life is. i want so much more for myself, and it kills me to see not only me, but a lot of the people i work with, doing something that all of us are way over qualified for. and i wondered how i can turn it back around, and get back on the right track. and i'm tired of working so hard just to squeeze by...and on the way home from jersey saturday night, i voiced a lot of this to jeremiah. and leave it to my knight in shining armor to turn me around. he said that sometimes we take for granted what we have in the present worrying about what we want in the future. sometimes we have to stop and appreciate all the great things we do have and let the rest fall into place. (see why i love him ; ) )
so, because of what he said, my wheels again started turning, and i realized this:
i'm so grateful for the amazing man in my life.
i'm so grateful for all the people i know, family, friends, coworkers...everyone in my life has touched me in some way. i have learned so much from the people i have met along the way. whether it was a moment someone smiled at me, an hour we shared in a waiting room, a week at a camp, a month in europe, or years of working side by side, you can't take for granted the people and conversations in life.
i'm so grateful for the amazing home jeremiah and i have made together.
i'm so grateful for the life i had in jersey, and the life i've made in maryland.
i'm so grateful for the 23 years of learning i've been blessed to have.
i'm so grateful for the family i have been blessed with.
i'm so grateful for the friends who have stuck by me for years, and the ones who have only been in my life for a short time. i feel lucky to have so many great people in my life.
i'm so grateful that i have plenty of time to figure out the rest :)
daley inspiration for 1/6/09:
don't ever forget to take a step back and look at all the good in your life. there were always be hardships and struggles, but you are more blessed if there are always good people in your life. make sure you thank those who support you, and let go those who hold you back. remember that negative people can be poison, and infect you with the venom of doubt. NEVER DOUBT YOURSELF. keep you as the first priority in your life, but never be selfish. and don't forget most importantly....breathe. :)
Friday, December 19, 2008
stressed but hopeful :/
so i am a firm believer in when you hit rock bottom the only place to go is up. but i am not naive enough to think that there wont be plenty of rocks to climb on the way up. it is a hard and tedious journey, but at the end it always feels worth it. i'm not quite at rock bottom but i keep falling. things keep stopping me on my path to what i want and its getting harder and harder for me to step over them.
money is an evil dirty thing, and for some reason it what powers the world. and yes, i stopped going to school after i got my 2 degrees, but there is no reason why i can't still be successful. but here i am working for pennies and struggling day to day to make ends meet. the economy sucks so finiding a new job is damn near impossible.
everyone throws out there opinion of what i should do and try this and if you did this. can i live?! i'm trying my hardest to make this work, and while me and jeremiah are both working so much, its putting a strain on our relationship. trust me, i'm still the happiest girl in the world, but it sucks when i can't see him. during the week he's gone before i wake up and asleep before i get home. and lately i've been picking up weekend shifts to make some extra money so i only get to see him for a few hours before i go to work on saturdays and sundays. its made us both snappier and cranky and it sucks.
and on top of that, i have no life. i have a couple great friends who i can talk to all the time, and of course my sisters and cousins jackie stephie lyssi and desi...they always help...but i don't do anything for me. i don't have fun, i don't hang out and laugh or just watch a movie. i have NO life. i work i sleep i clean i sleep i work i sleep i clean i work i sleep. its a viscious cycle.
nothing in life is free. including a great life. its hard work, its messy, its tiring, its not gentle in the least. but i'm willing to fight the big fight. i've made it through the past 6 years with all of the crazy things that have happened to me, and i don't plan on giving up now...not when i'm this far ahead.
daley inspiration for 12/19/08:
don't always believe the grass is greener on the other side. who knows, it could be dead. face one issue at a time in life, and you will find that not only will you do better at accomplishing things, you will not be as stressed doing them. just remember that you can only physically do so much. if 2 bills are due on the same day, work on paying off one and then the other. trying to come up with 2 at once is overwhelming. you can always set up a payment plan with one! there are more things in life to live for than just THINGS.
money is an evil dirty thing, and for some reason it what powers the world. and yes, i stopped going to school after i got my 2 degrees, but there is no reason why i can't still be successful. but here i am working for pennies and struggling day to day to make ends meet. the economy sucks so finiding a new job is damn near impossible.
everyone throws out there opinion of what i should do and try this and if you did this. can i live?! i'm trying my hardest to make this work, and while me and jeremiah are both working so much, its putting a strain on our relationship. trust me, i'm still the happiest girl in the world, but it sucks when i can't see him. during the week he's gone before i wake up and asleep before i get home. and lately i've been picking up weekend shifts to make some extra money so i only get to see him for a few hours before i go to work on saturdays and sundays. its made us both snappier and cranky and it sucks.
and on top of that, i have no life. i have a couple great friends who i can talk to all the time, and of course my sisters and cousins jackie stephie lyssi and desi...they always help...but i don't do anything for me. i don't have fun, i don't hang out and laugh or just watch a movie. i have NO life. i work i sleep i clean i sleep i work i sleep i clean i work i sleep. its a viscious cycle.
nothing in life is free. including a great life. its hard work, its messy, its tiring, its not gentle in the least. but i'm willing to fight the big fight. i've made it through the past 6 years with all of the crazy things that have happened to me, and i don't plan on giving up now...not when i'm this far ahead.
daley inspiration for 12/19/08:
don't always believe the grass is greener on the other side. who knows, it could be dead. face one issue at a time in life, and you will find that not only will you do better at accomplishing things, you will not be as stressed doing them. just remember that you can only physically do so much. if 2 bills are due on the same day, work on paying off one and then the other. trying to come up with 2 at once is overwhelming. you can always set up a payment plan with one! there are more things in life to live for than just THINGS.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Thank God for Little Girls :)
okay so my brand new baby cousin has finally arrived! and while i'm so happy that she is finally here, let me just go off on a tangent about baltimore hospitals.
first and foremost, i arrive at the hospital and its hailing. the parking lot is covered in ice and its mass pandemonium of people arriving and trying to leave. my cousin comes waddling across the parking lot and hops in the car so we can smoke a cig before we go in because you aren't allowed to smoke on the ENTIRE premises of the hospital, unless of course you have a badge in which case you can do whatever it is you want. so we start driving around the parking lot looking for a spot. we pull up in front of this lady who keeps turning her lights on and off and my cousin rolls down the window and asks if she's leaving. "uh no i just parked." is the response we get....sorry i couldn't decipher that from your constant brake tapping.
so finally i park. i head up into the room to see my aunt. shes laying there quietly as well all jam into this little room making idle chatter. the nurses appear and check up on her then disappear with promises of returning shortly. an hour later they come back..and the cycle repeats. so my cousin and i sneak out to sneak a couple cigarettes.
the 2nd time we go they lock the door we've been coming in so we have to park on the other side of the hospital and go in that way...my cousin forgot her badge so i had to go in and get it for her. she runs back out to the car later and people are screaming in the emergency room bc someone got shot and died. yeah not what you wanna be stuck in the middle of.
so sitting in this room crowded together, we tried to entertain eachother by telling funny stories and jokes and just chatting about anything. the anesthesiologist comes in to give her another dose of her epidural. afterwards he's standing in front of the paper towels and seems to give up and walk away..my aunt's best friend is like you can just pull on them. as he walks out of the room i'm like "uh did we really just teach the phd how to use paper towels???" hahahhaha.
finally after a looooong day my aunt finally gave birth to 7 lb 10 oz 20" delaney jolee<3
so after the nonsense of dealing with the hospital, it was all worth it for her beautiful face. a baby is such a blessing that we take for granted. i can't wait for my turn :)
daley inspiration for 12/17/08: being negative because your day is not going well is not going to make it better. in fact, as a firm believer in karma, if you do this and make someone elses day bad, it will make yours worse. do unto others as you would have them do unto you. try to make a bad day positive by making someone else smile.
first and foremost, i arrive at the hospital and its hailing. the parking lot is covered in ice and its mass pandemonium of people arriving and trying to leave. my cousin comes waddling across the parking lot and hops in the car so we can smoke a cig before we go in because you aren't allowed to smoke on the ENTIRE premises of the hospital, unless of course you have a badge in which case you can do whatever it is you want. so we start driving around the parking lot looking for a spot. we pull up in front of this lady who keeps turning her lights on and off and my cousin rolls down the window and asks if she's leaving. "uh no i just parked." is the response we get....sorry i couldn't decipher that from your constant brake tapping.
so finally i park. i head up into the room to see my aunt. shes laying there quietly as well all jam into this little room making idle chatter. the nurses appear and check up on her then disappear with promises of returning shortly. an hour later they come back..and the cycle repeats. so my cousin and i sneak out to sneak a couple cigarettes.
the 2nd time we go they lock the door we've been coming in so we have to park on the other side of the hospital and go in that way...my cousin forgot her badge so i had to go in and get it for her. she runs back out to the car later and people are screaming in the emergency room bc someone got shot and died. yeah not what you wanna be stuck in the middle of.
so sitting in this room crowded together, we tried to entertain eachother by telling funny stories and jokes and just chatting about anything. the anesthesiologist comes in to give her another dose of her epidural. afterwards he's standing in front of the paper towels and seems to give up and walk away..my aunt's best friend is like you can just pull on them. as he walks out of the room i'm like "uh did we really just teach the phd how to use paper towels???" hahahhaha.
finally after a looooong day my aunt finally gave birth to 7 lb 10 oz 20" delaney jolee<3
so after the nonsense of dealing with the hospital, it was all worth it for her beautiful face. a baby is such a blessing that we take for granted. i can't wait for my turn :)
daley inspiration for 12/17/08: being negative because your day is not going well is not going to make it better. in fact, as a firm believer in karma, if you do this and make someone elses day bad, it will make yours worse. do unto others as you would have them do unto you. try to make a bad day positive by making someone else smile.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Dining Out for Dummies.
so i've been working a lot this past weekend, and as each shift goes by at work, i wonder more and more why they've never created a book called: dining out for dummies. i mean those ppl have a book for everything else, why not that? so i decided to make up my own. sure this isnt going to be everything i write down here, but you will get the drift, and please feel free to let me know anything else you can think of!
1.the introduction.
when you meet someone, whether it be on the street, through a friend, at work, etc. you let them finish what they're saying before you start to speak. for example, "hi my name is christina." and you would pause to make sure they are finished and you would answer. so why is it that when you come to my workplace and i start my speech, you interrupt me with whatever you want to drink. i have a whole introduction speech to give you and when you interrupt that speech, not only have you screwed up my groove but you are now getting your drink in a dirty cup, probably with a straw i've licked. DON'T INTERRUPT YOUR SERVER'S INTRODUCTION.
2. beverages.
i make your sodas, your waters, your tea, your coffee. i am not the bartender, i do not make your alcoholic beverages, and last time i checked i do not ferment your beer. if your drink is too weak, too strong, too sweet, too sour, politeness is key to getting this fixed. by telling me "ugh, this drink is disgusting you need to fix this." what i'm hearing is.."whatever makes this more disgusting please please do it!!!! just to watch me squirm in displeasure!" because that is exactly what i will do. if you do not like something a simple, "this isn't exactly what i thought it was, i'm sorry could i possibly try something else or maybe have them alter this one?" will be more than fine thank you.
3. reading the menu.
i understand that sometimes you are rushed by the people you are with to make a quick decision. that does not mean that you should not read what exactly is in your meal you have chosen. because when you get something and it has things you do not like on it, it is going to take even longer when we have to redo it. and by reading the menu i don't mean asking me to recite the menu for you. listen dude, i have 17 other people waiting for me, i'm not going to read to you because you are lazy. pony up big boy, just do it.
4. upon recieving your food.
when i am dropping off plates to 6 people at the table, i am trying to balance a lot of food, and make sure each person at the table gets the correct meal. when the first person who gets their food immediately starts spitting out that they need ketchup and napkins and more salt i want to grab that persons face and smash it into their food. dude i do this for a living, i will ask you when i am finished putting down everything what you need, and then you may fire at me like wildfire with your requests. until then shut up and wait.
5. during your meal.
as previously stated with the drinks, i am not the chef either. i do not cook your food, so if your food comes out wrong and you aren't enjoying it, treating me like crap will not get it out to you any faster. refills...i do not mind refilling your drink. if you chug the first one, i will courteously chalk it up to you were really thirsty when you came in. if you are a grown adult and chug a 2nd drink, i will make you sweat it out til your food comes. this is not a frat house and i am not your slave. if you are a teenager and are chugging soda because they are free i will ignore you completely. if you are a 20 something slamming back drinks to get wasted, jokes on you buddy we have a 4 drink policy. so seriously, don't chug.
6. cleaning up of the table.
as members of your party finish they're meals, i will try to remove what i can from the table, and i will come back for the rest. stacking everything you can find on top of my pile of dishes is just dumb. sometimes, when a jerk does such a thing, i pray to the restaurant gods that i will drop all of the plates on said jerk's lap. don't be rude, if my hands are full give me a minute.
7. coffee.
ok. you are in a restaurant. ALL RESTAURANT COFFEE IS GROSS! we are not a gourmet coffee joint, go to starbucks if my coffee is too bitter, too old, too stale. because honestly i don't have the time to brew a new pot for you. and 9 times out of 10 if you say you need a fresh cup we're going to continue giving you the old cup and telling you that "its new sir" and if you don't like it i appologize. take your coffee loving behind somewhere else.
8. paying the bill.
first and foremost, if 2 people at the table are fighting with me to take their credit card and not the other persons, i will walk away. talk about awkward. secondly, if you are leaving me cash, it is an insult if you leave it crumpled up thrown askew on my table. 3rd if you are leaving exact change you should be shot. fourth, gratuity in the state of maryland is 18%. this is how i make my money. i make 3 DOLLARS and 8 CENTS an hour. i don't make money off of your food, i make money off of the extra money that you leave me. when i have gotten you 15 waters and done all but wipe your kids snotty face or follow you to the bathroom and wipe your behind and you leave me 2 or 3 dollars i want to chase you out the door and beat you senseless in the parking lot. honestly, i do. and teenagers? don't send your kids to a restaurant knowing your kids have no idea how to behave in a restaurant and leave them for me to babysit on a friday night crazy busy while they have soda chugging contests and order one desert for all 7 of them to share and then leave me ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. you better find a way to get me some tip money or next time, your kid isn't coming home.
9. cleaning up after your children.
i love kids. adore them. so when i have kids at my table, i don't mind. i play with them, they're cute and i am genuinely nice to the family. however, when you leave me with sugar packets all over the table and floor, food stuck to the floor and seats, crayons smashed on the table and floor, and napkins all over, i want to find your house and blow it up while you all sleep safely inside. i am not your maid, i am your server. i was nice to you i was nice to your kids and i made sure your kids food came out first and i took care of you all night. how rude can you be to leave me a nasty mess behind you. i hope the next time someone comes to your house for a play date they leave poopy diapers on your living room floor and toys all over your house and gum on your furniture and food jamed in your vcr.
well that is all the time i have for today, and this isn't even close to everything i could say, these are just some of the basics. one day i will write a book about the proper dining out etiquette...trust me you'll want to pick that up :)
daley inspiration for 12/15/08:
do unto others as you would have them do unto you. take a step back and think before you say or do things, and wonder how you would feel to have them done to you. it is easy to snap back at someone and fire a nasty remark, but when dealt with rudely, the offender can become worse. so even if someone says a harsh thing to you, laugh it off and chalk it up as their own ignorance. you are better than that.
xoxo
1.the introduction.
when you meet someone, whether it be on the street, through a friend, at work, etc. you let them finish what they're saying before you start to speak. for example, "hi my name is christina." and you would pause to make sure they are finished and you would answer. so why is it that when you come to my workplace and i start my speech, you interrupt me with whatever you want to drink. i have a whole introduction speech to give you and when you interrupt that speech, not only have you screwed up my groove but you are now getting your drink in a dirty cup, probably with a straw i've licked. DON'T INTERRUPT YOUR SERVER'S INTRODUCTION.
2. beverages.
i make your sodas, your waters, your tea, your coffee. i am not the bartender, i do not make your alcoholic beverages, and last time i checked i do not ferment your beer. if your drink is too weak, too strong, too sweet, too sour, politeness is key to getting this fixed. by telling me "ugh, this drink is disgusting you need to fix this." what i'm hearing is.."whatever makes this more disgusting please please do it!!!! just to watch me squirm in displeasure!" because that is exactly what i will do. if you do not like something a simple, "this isn't exactly what i thought it was, i'm sorry could i possibly try something else or maybe have them alter this one?" will be more than fine thank you.
3. reading the menu.
i understand that sometimes you are rushed by the people you are with to make a quick decision. that does not mean that you should not read what exactly is in your meal you have chosen. because when you get something and it has things you do not like on it, it is going to take even longer when we have to redo it. and by reading the menu i don't mean asking me to recite the menu for you. listen dude, i have 17 other people waiting for me, i'm not going to read to you because you are lazy. pony up big boy, just do it.
4. upon recieving your food.
when i am dropping off plates to 6 people at the table, i am trying to balance a lot of food, and make sure each person at the table gets the correct meal. when the first person who gets their food immediately starts spitting out that they need ketchup and napkins and more salt i want to grab that persons face and smash it into their food. dude i do this for a living, i will ask you when i am finished putting down everything what you need, and then you may fire at me like wildfire with your requests. until then shut up and wait.
5. during your meal.
as previously stated with the drinks, i am not the chef either. i do not cook your food, so if your food comes out wrong and you aren't enjoying it, treating me like crap will not get it out to you any faster. refills...i do not mind refilling your drink. if you chug the first one, i will courteously chalk it up to you were really thirsty when you came in. if you are a grown adult and chug a 2nd drink, i will make you sweat it out til your food comes. this is not a frat house and i am not your slave. if you are a teenager and are chugging soda because they are free i will ignore you completely. if you are a 20 something slamming back drinks to get wasted, jokes on you buddy we have a 4 drink policy. so seriously, don't chug.
6. cleaning up of the table.
as members of your party finish they're meals, i will try to remove what i can from the table, and i will come back for the rest. stacking everything you can find on top of my pile of dishes is just dumb. sometimes, when a jerk does such a thing, i pray to the restaurant gods that i will drop all of the plates on said jerk's lap. don't be rude, if my hands are full give me a minute.
7. coffee.
ok. you are in a restaurant. ALL RESTAURANT COFFEE IS GROSS! we are not a gourmet coffee joint, go to starbucks if my coffee is too bitter, too old, too stale. because honestly i don't have the time to brew a new pot for you. and 9 times out of 10 if you say you need a fresh cup we're going to continue giving you the old cup and telling you that "its new sir" and if you don't like it i appologize. take your coffee loving behind somewhere else.
8. paying the bill.
first and foremost, if 2 people at the table are fighting with me to take their credit card and not the other persons, i will walk away. talk about awkward. secondly, if you are leaving me cash, it is an insult if you leave it crumpled up thrown askew on my table. 3rd if you are leaving exact change you should be shot. fourth, gratuity in the state of maryland is 18%. this is how i make my money. i make 3 DOLLARS and 8 CENTS an hour. i don't make money off of your food, i make money off of the extra money that you leave me. when i have gotten you 15 waters and done all but wipe your kids snotty face or follow you to the bathroom and wipe your behind and you leave me 2 or 3 dollars i want to chase you out the door and beat you senseless in the parking lot. honestly, i do. and teenagers? don't send your kids to a restaurant knowing your kids have no idea how to behave in a restaurant and leave them for me to babysit on a friday night crazy busy while they have soda chugging contests and order one desert for all 7 of them to share and then leave me ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. you better find a way to get me some tip money or next time, your kid isn't coming home.
9. cleaning up after your children.
i love kids. adore them. so when i have kids at my table, i don't mind. i play with them, they're cute and i am genuinely nice to the family. however, when you leave me with sugar packets all over the table and floor, food stuck to the floor and seats, crayons smashed on the table and floor, and napkins all over, i want to find your house and blow it up while you all sleep safely inside. i am not your maid, i am your server. i was nice to you i was nice to your kids and i made sure your kids food came out first and i took care of you all night. how rude can you be to leave me a nasty mess behind you. i hope the next time someone comes to your house for a play date they leave poopy diapers on your living room floor and toys all over your house and gum on your furniture and food jamed in your vcr.
well that is all the time i have for today, and this isn't even close to everything i could say, these are just some of the basics. one day i will write a book about the proper dining out etiquette...trust me you'll want to pick that up :)
daley inspiration for 12/15/08:
do unto others as you would have them do unto you. take a step back and think before you say or do things, and wonder how you would feel to have them done to you. it is easy to snap back at someone and fire a nasty remark, but when dealt with rudely, the offender can become worse. so even if someone says a harsh thing to you, laugh it off and chalk it up as their own ignorance. you are better than that.
xoxo
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
BITER...SIKE!
okay so in the light of being a biter, my idea for this came from a friend who's blog i really enjoy reading, also because of the fact that i am famous world wide, and letting my friends from east to west to even overseas keep up with my life is really important to me. so, there in lies the start of the daley inspirations.
i'm not saying that i'm the world's most interesting person, but i've had a lot of things happen in my life, and people are constantly telling me they love to listen to my stories, so why not write down my thoughts for everyone?
basically to sum me up for those who don't know, and to reiterate for those who do, i'm a 23 year old female who was born and raised in south jersey. i grew up from rags to riches, and yes, my daddy has bucks. but i was never handed things. i had to work for what i wanted in life, especially after i went off the path my parents had chosen for me. yes, i had more than i ever needed or wanted, but i never took those things for granted. i was blessed with an amazing family, but times were not always good. like you, i too have disfunction in the home. i always say that one persons problems are not bigger than anothers. if it is important to you, no matter how big or small, i make it important to me.
i moved to maryland about a year and a half ago, and i can honestly say it was the best decision i've ever made in my life. i have met some truly great people out here, and opportunities have seemed to fall in my lap. i've also met the man of my dreams. he is my knight on a white horse, who galloped in and swept me away. his perserverence and ambition have inspired me, and he makes me be the best woman i can everyday. i could go on about him for days, but i won't bore you with the details except i love him unconditionally and am truly blessed to have finally met my soulmate.
i'm very outgoing and outspoken. i pride myself on being the girl who will tell you that yes in fact ur ass does look huge in those jeans, and your hair style went out in the 80s..but i'm never mean spirited in any of the things i say. i'm very open minded and non judgemental and i LOVE to make people laugh. i'm weird, i'm a huge dork, but i'm so honest and loveable that people rarely don't like me. and i'm proud of that.
alright, well i can't think of much else to say so for today i'll let you digest that.
daley inspiration for 12/9/2008:
always looking at the negative in your life will lead you to believe there is no positive. try to find one thing about everyday that makes you smile, or in the very least at least gives you a glimmer of hope for the days to follow. listen to your heart and accept help when you need it. stay strong and keep your head up<3
i'm not saying that i'm the world's most interesting person, but i've had a lot of things happen in my life, and people are constantly telling me they love to listen to my stories, so why not write down my thoughts for everyone?
basically to sum me up for those who don't know, and to reiterate for those who do, i'm a 23 year old female who was born and raised in south jersey. i grew up from rags to riches, and yes, my daddy has bucks. but i was never handed things. i had to work for what i wanted in life, especially after i went off the path my parents had chosen for me. yes, i had more than i ever needed or wanted, but i never took those things for granted. i was blessed with an amazing family, but times were not always good. like you, i too have disfunction in the home. i always say that one persons problems are not bigger than anothers. if it is important to you, no matter how big or small, i make it important to me.
i moved to maryland about a year and a half ago, and i can honestly say it was the best decision i've ever made in my life. i have met some truly great people out here, and opportunities have seemed to fall in my lap. i've also met the man of my dreams. he is my knight on a white horse, who galloped in and swept me away. his perserverence and ambition have inspired me, and he makes me be the best woman i can everyday. i could go on about him for days, but i won't bore you with the details except i love him unconditionally and am truly blessed to have finally met my soulmate.
i'm very outgoing and outspoken. i pride myself on being the girl who will tell you that yes in fact ur ass does look huge in those jeans, and your hair style went out in the 80s..but i'm never mean spirited in any of the things i say. i'm very open minded and non judgemental and i LOVE to make people laugh. i'm weird, i'm a huge dork, but i'm so honest and loveable that people rarely don't like me. and i'm proud of that.
alright, well i can't think of much else to say so for today i'll let you digest that.
daley inspiration for 12/9/2008:
always looking at the negative in your life will lead you to believe there is no positive. try to find one thing about everyday that makes you smile, or in the very least at least gives you a glimmer of hope for the days to follow. listen to your heart and accept help when you need it. stay strong and keep your head up<3
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